Dating a pregnant girl
” If Miranda in (a pregnant icon in my books) could hit the club with her girlfriends and carry on having single sex with eligible bachelors, what was to stop me?
Maybe that’s why, like going to spin class or eating sushi, I never thought twice about dating through my pregnancy.
In my (perhaps naive) opinion, fear is the worst enemy of a healthy mom (and healthy baby).
Back in January, I was spending my New Year’s Eve in Palm Springs at a mid-century dream home with a group of kickass women.
Growing a human is a strange, uncomfortable, foreign endeavour even at the best of times.
But when I decided to get pregnant on my own—a route that made me feel more in control than relying on finding a partner that could potentially not stick around—I was determined to challenge the norm, to ask unexpected questions, like “Forget survival, what about fun?
On both Tinder and Bumble I laid everything out upfront with a profile that read, “Single and pregnant via sperm donor.
I was ready to be a mom and hadn’t found the right guy, so I went ahead without him. ” Hinge made matters a bit more complicated, providing no space to write any sort of custom bio or information, so with suitors there I would actually have to tell my matches after they had already decided they were into me.
I’m not saying these narratives aren’t important—pregnancy is hard with any relationship status, and “getting through it” is so often the verbiage used regardless of whether a woman is in a relationship.I’d made the decision a few weeks earlier that once back from vacation, I’d start actively pursuing my plan to get pregnant on my own via donor, and I was feeling pretty excited about the future.One evening, the pack of us ended up splitting pitchers of margaritas and plates of nachos at a local Mexican spot, and on our way out I overheard a heated conversation among a group of women at the table next to us.It definitely won’t be easy, but, on the contrary, I think making this decision has changed my dating life for the better.Though it wasn’t intentional, I find myself with newly shifted standards that mirror my new life path.