Dating separated or going through divorce
He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.The relationship might have been dead five years ago, but the paperwork is still pending. A man who says he’s ready to move on isn’t necessarily ready to move on. After all, he doesn’t even know if he is or if he isn’t.Tell him you want to meet his children, but that you’d prefer to wait until the dust settles.Another important boundary to maintain is to keep your home life separate from his.Because he’s getting divorced, he’s still legally, financially and emotionally completing his relationship with his ex.Moving in with him over-involves you in his life and makes it impossible to set healthy boundaries.She has written for several online publications and has been published in numerous scientific journals in the areas of mental health and addiction.Christie earned her master’s and doctoral degrees from the University of Colorado.
Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.Set a boundary that you need him to proceed with his divorce in order to be involved with him.If he stalls or makes excuses, step back from dating him until he takes the necessary steps.Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.