” —: When you're in any new relationship, keep yourself aware of your friend's feelings.
This especially rings true if that friend is the family member of your new crush!
Be upfront and clue your friend in on how you’re feeling.
They’ll be glad they heard about it from you, and not someone else!
According to some experts, the solution to this common relationship issue is a little thing called... After all, no matter how you feel about your partner's pals, the fact remains that these bozos are a part of your life. “The worst thing you can do is try to get [your partner] to see his friends for what they are, which forces him to go to their defense -- and his own defense for liking them,” says Hartman. "To insult a partner's friends is to insult your partner," she says. "A healthy, evolved person chooses friends that inspire, support and share the same values on some level," she notes.Ensuring the safety of our clients is our top priority. For more information about the terms of your profile’s extended visibility, click here.Profiles are moderated and your personal data is protected. For any complaints and enquiries you may contact us here.You'll have to mingle with them sometimes (yes, even the ones who are more hideously annoying than fingernails on chalkboard, like the two types described above). Your first step in this case, according to Hartman? That said, you can express your dislike of your parther's friends' behaviors, and explain why you feel that way. “By refusing to socialize, you force your partner to choose,” notes clinical psychologist, Joseph Burgo, Ph. "Calling someone’s friends 'idiots' is a direct criticism of the person who has those friendships." Her advice? Try to understand what it is about these friendships that your partner enjoys -- it just might help you shift your "idiot" perspective. If you feel that's the case, "it's hard not to take this personally, particularly if you’re introverted or come from an upbringing where you weren't 'seen' or appreciated," says Brosh.“At the end of the day, if someone wants to be in a relationship with someone they love, having a relationship with their friends on some level is important,” says California-based psychologist Andra Brosh, Ph. Behavioral scientist and dating expert Christie Hartman, Ph. “Ultimately, if you choose to have the relationship, you have to accept that [your partner] is friends with them,” she says. "I do think there can be a frank conversation without judgment," Brosh says. That's why, in this scenario, it's worth discussing the issue with your partner.