Getting back out there dating
“They’re crazy,” you’ll say, without ever taking responsibility for the roles you played in the past.
As my friend Jamie says, “Crazy recognizes crazy,” and she’s right.
Telling yourself there’s no one for you is not only statistically impossible; it’s also arrogant to think that in the entirety of the known world, there doesn’t exist a single person (literally) who could love you like you deserve. Get back in the saddle by giving yourself permission to let go of old hurt and excuses.
Forgive your past self and embrace the fact that the love you seek is seeking you, too. He was the type of guy I said I’d never get involved with.
Holding each other at arm’s length, appearing too aloof for true connection, or too fearful of rejection makes it hard to establish a foundation of safety and trust.
She only ever looked at Mike as her brother, she said, but it was no coincidence that she remained single right up until the time he and his wife moved away from the area.
That I could “get back out there” and make the most of my new found single status, and better still, that this would be fun and all it meant was opening myself up to new opportunities. The week that I made the decision to get back out there was the week that I felt in complete disarray and simply used the idea of dating as a distraction because I thought, well, that is what I do.
So I hit the town, and before I even began to unleash myself to the male species, I felt a massive sense of underwhelm. It wasn’t my ex-boyfriend, it wasn’t a man in general, and it wasn’t a lack of confidence or assurance. So, the following week, here is what I did instead: Lack of respect and lack of being heard were two major factors.
They’re the ones who embrace life in its messiness and imperfection and they’re right at home embracing the same in themselves.
Get back in the saddle and get messy while you’re at it!