Guidelines to safe dating
Sexual intimacy is a powerful form of communication between two people, but also creates emotional insecurity for men and women.Sex is personally private while the most intimate activity people can share that is psycho-biologically driven. When conditions are unsafe, severe trauma is often experienced no matter what the age, gender, or sexual orientation of the victim.Further, cases beginning with consensual isolation that later involve physical force or threats of violence for gaining sexual access, the result is often the victim’s word against the rapist’s. Relationships are bound to have conflict, which can be beneficial for making relationships stronger when the mutual goal is cooperation.Without substantial evidence, the District or State’s Attorney is unlikely to prosecute such cases when the circumstances are determined to be “he said, she said”. Conversely, communication becomes a dictation when one partner is inflexible or uses coercive and manipulative tactics to meet their needs.However, rapists commonly ignore their victim’s right to consent, or they discount the word “NO”.
Additionally, the burden to prove the situation was rape falls upon the victim and the police/prosecution. Female token resistance is confusing and dangerous. Good communication starts with preparations before a date.For most people discussing sexual topics is awkward, especially in the beginning of a relationship.Good dating communication is much harder to perform as both partners’ emotions mix with situational conditions.Good communication is essential and one should not be inhibited about saying, “No” to assert one’s safety.After a woman asserts her boundaries, “Players” may move on, while rapists will likely continue to pressure or force sexual activities, but men who are genuinely interested in cultivating a balanced relationship will honor a woman’s boundaries for safe sexual relations.